I loved him back in the day when he didn’t have two dimes

And her beauty and charm is likely all smoke and mirrors. I congratulate you for skipping the self-flagellation step that so many of us have fallen into. Kudos for recognizing that she saw and exploited a need. That’s all.

He loves that I chose to give up my career (yes you judgemental skank, I am well educated too, she looked down on my choice) to stay at home with our kids

Oh no, I didn’t skip it at all, in fact. I just am trying to get past that as it was destructive.

The OW seemed attractive, intelligent, etc., and was a person in a highly regarded career. The way he affaired down was, first, in the most obvious way: she was a person of low character, the kind who would cheat on her own H and sleep with someone else’s. And she didn’t really care about my H in any deep way, he was just a diversion from her unhappy life. Continue reading »